Self love can be simply defined as regard for one’s own well-being and happiness, but it encompasses so much more than that. Self love is an an unconditional feeling of love, appreciation and acceptance for yourself.
First thing you need to do is be aware how you treat yourself. We all talk to ourselves in our minds, but we are not always fully conscious of that voice. Becoming conscious of your inner voice, paying attention to what it’s saying and noticing what you tend to tell yourself most often will help alter your mindset and change the way you view yourself. What do you say when you do something amazing? What do you say when you fail?
Learning to take control of this inner voice is the next step to combating negative thoughts that do not work towards self love. When you notice your inner voice saying things that are not positive, you can train yourself to cancel out these thoughts by repeating positive messages to yourself. Once you pause to realise what you are telling yourself is negative and in turn repeating positive messages over to yourself, in time you will begin believing all the positive things over the negative.
Finally, take the time to do something loving for yourself. Think of all the things you enjoy doing and do them by yourself. Some of these things include reading your favourite book, going for a walk or taking a dance class. They are simple things that you enjoy to allow you to feel relaxed and at peace within yourself. The more you practice acts of self love, the stronger the message you send yourself: “You deserve it”.