The Ocean

The ocean.

The sand.

Has always been a love of mine.

And a saviour in some big life moments…

I remember going to the ocean the morning before my third c section…

Yes, a naturopath that had 3 c sections!! What??

In my heart of hearts, not by choice, but my body didn’t do what I thought it was meant to so it ended up that way. 

And the kids were here and healthy and that is all I care about…

The first, an emergency where Leilani was born, was scary and stressful. 

Then Zane was an elective and I haemorrhaged and that was scary.

So as you can imagine about to have my third babe and I was so worried about the whole thing….

I couldn’t get the thoughts out of my head that something was going to go wrong. I mean for the other two something went wrong and things didn’t go as I expected. I just assumed from things of the past that it would happen now too.

I had to work on lowering my anxiety about this and it shook me because I knew to a degree it was a synergy of my body, my mindset, my doctor and God working this miracle out.

So I worked at it…

I knew the calmer I was the better it would go and I went to meditation classes and spoke to a coach about this very moment as it was approaching and he took me in my session….. to the beach. 

To the beautiful ocean. 

He said when you lay down imagine you’re on the beach and when you see the bright lights in the operating table change it to the ️ sun shining bright…

And imagine your most beautiful memories at the beach the whole way through…

Each day I meditated on this and the morning before I asked my hubby to go to the beach before we went to the hospital and when we got there we sat down on the beach…. together …..

Holding hands, I said I was nervous …..

He said it would be ok…..

And then I spotted something in the water – a fin oh wait …. 3 fins…

3 dolphins porpoising gracefully in the ocean right in front of where we sat. 

I was so happy, and felt at ease. I took this as a sign, and that’s all I needed and I said to Rod let’s go meet our babe. 

Everything went fine…

In fact more than fine… 

Just one more thing…

When we got there my beautiful surgeon who had delivered my first was waiting and looked like he was meditating in prayer  

I said to him that nice

And he smiled.

So many blessings that day! 

And I was so grateful

So blessed

That I did the work beforehand

I noticed something was okay

I found a solution and I created change. 

So much of what I do every day now with my ladies…

We see the problem…we shift and change through solutions.

And I see them rise and that’s like a blessing.

The sea can take so much…

Especially when we are diving in deep…

This reminds me of one of our top principles…..

Dive in

Work with nature

Allow the healing to take place

  

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The Backup Plan

Who has a backup plan?

Sort of goes like this ….

A backup plan is the bit that keeps us in the prison of our illness, condition or feeling of stress or fatigue. Because the BUP doesn’t allow us to fully commit and go for it when we go after our healthy outcome or life shift up.

The backup plan will have us settle for less. 

Allow us to be hijacked and will lead us into situations where there is little support so we can fall back. 

And fall we do. 

It interrupts our best possibility for feeling how totally good our body is designed to feel and it makes decisions that won’t ever work for good or be life-changing. 

The diet that doesn’t work 

The relationship that doesn’t work

The business that doesn’t work 

They all have a backup plan

Sometimes a backup plan says to us:

Just eat what you’re eating and then go on a diet in summer;

Or it can say I’ll just wait till I’m more financial and then I’ll leap, but the back plan never will find you enough cash to do that.

Or it will say when my kids are older I’ll take my life seriously then and learn how to care for me then… I know how that one goes!!! It doesn’t work and it drains you to feel completely exhausted, stressed and then guilty and disconnected – that’s the backup plan.

As I have my daily chats to my ladies this week who I love so much because they are so courageous to take the leap to change their health and design a life they love… the one thing I notice is that having a backup plan keeps us comfortable and keeps us in a place in our health that we think is safe.

The backup plan builds this sphere around us where we can’t see other ways to heal ourselves, we can’t see clearly the ways to truly love and take care of ourselves and this keeps the cycle of illness, and fatigue and imbalance continuing. 

The backup plan isn’t actually a plan, it’s a story we tell ourselves to stop us from feeling uncomfortable about the changes we know we must make. And in keeping this solid in our daily thoughts about feeling anxious, or the stressful situation, the health problem that you want to just forget about and do everything you can to avoid asking for help or reaching out, this soldier mass feels like a sphere of cement holding us in place. It feels familiar so we stay here and it feels safe. 

But what I realised is that it only takes one step outside of this sphere to have it begin to fall away from us. And as we take this step we acknowledge that there is another way and then the backup plan looks like cheating ourselves and we no longer want to be part of that.

Changing our perception towards what supports us, what strengthens us and what heals us from the inside out is about choosing to just begin it. Boldly talking a step means you really don’t want to feel the way you feel anymore and that you want a massive shift in the way you’re existing. 

It is this step that is your right and will bring awareness to your health challenge and will connect yourself again. If this is where you’re at and you want to drop the backup plan that keeps getting in the way of all that you desire for your health and your wellbeing then get in touch today.

 

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Yoga Vs. Pilates: Which one is right for you?

Yoga and Pilates are often thrown into the same category. True, they are similar practices, but they have some major differences that many people don’t recognise.

 

Difference 1: The origin
The practice of yoga originated in India more than 5,000 years ago. It has evolved over the centuries and cultures into many different types of yoga: Ashtanga, Kripalu, Bikram and Vineyasa, to name just a few. Pilates is a much younger practice, beginning in the mid-20th century by an athlete named Joseph Pilates. He created the exercises as a form of rehabilitation and strengthening.

Difference 2: Mind, Body and Spirit
Both yoga and Pilates bring an understanding that the mind and body are connected. However, yoga adds an additional element to the mix—the spirit. Exploring spirituality is a huge part of yoga practice, especially through meditation.

Difference 3: The Class
Many yoga classes are flexible in routine. Postures, sequences and variations can be combined into tens of thousands of routines to create a class. So it will be up to the style of yoga you practice and the teacher guiding you to decide what’s on the agenda. Pilates classes are a little more structured. Because of this, you will more likely know what to expect when you walk into the door of a Pilates class than in a yoga class.

Difference 4: The Workout
In both practices, you will gain strength and flexibility. Pilates classes offer a total body workout but focus on aligning the spine and strengthening the core. The exercises done in Pilates classes almost always involve regimented movements to gain core and spine strength. In a yoga class, you will work out every muscle in your body equally. Each posture is accompanied by a counter-posture to ensure you create balance in your body.

Difference 5: Breathing Techniques
Breathing and concentration techniques are important to both yoga and Pilates practices. However, yoga uses breath work on a very deep level. Often in yoga classes, there will be segments dedicated to breath work, called pranayama. In Pilates practices, you just inhale through the nose and exhale through the mouth.

 

So how do you decide which one is for you? If you are certain you want your practice to be spiritual and are looking to manage your stress, yoga may be the better option for you. If your priority is to focus on your back and core, Pilates may be a better fit.

If you don’t know where to start, try them both and you will find one that you enjoy or benefit more from.